You resign. Your boss panics. They suddenly offer you more money, a promotion, or whatever you asked for months ago. Feels good, right? Be careful.
The statistics are brutal: Research consistently shows that 50-80% of people who accept counter-offers leave within 12 months anyway. Why?
The trust is broken. You showed your cards — they now know you were looking to leave. You may be quietly replaced over the next few months while they find your successor on their timeline, not yours.
Nothing else changed. The money was always there — they just didn't give it to you until you forced their hand. The boss, the culture, the ceiling, the commute — all the same. If money was the only problem, a counter-offer fixes it. If it wasn't (and it usually wasn't), you'll be right back here in 6 months.
When a counter-offer IS worth considering: Your boss genuinely didn't know you were unhappy, the issues are specifically addressable (not cultural), and the counter includes structural changes (new role, new team, new responsibilities) — not just money.